Don’t Make the Same Mistake Twice
Dating After Divorce
Nobody wants to make the same mistake twice, yet more second marriages end in divorce than first marriages. If you feel discarded by your first spouse or frightened and overwhelmed at the thought of living your own life, you may marry on the rebound. Rush into a marriage without making sure it’s a 50-50 partnership and you risk becoming yet another failed marriage statistic.
Make sure you have allowed yourself enough time to heal and grow strong in all aspects of your life before you leap into another marriage. The second time around, look for maturity, integrity and a great friend, advises Thirdage.com, a website for the first wave of baby boomers. Try the Third Age Second Spouse Marriage Error Detection Checklist, a digital divorce detector. Do you share the same intellectual values? Attitudes towards money and finance? And perhaps the most telling question of all: Is your potential spouse as adventurous as you are?
Love may be lovelier the second time around, but researchers are finding that love has a better chance of surviving in marriage if you complete a course in marriage skills before you sign up for a marriage license. Even if you’re a veteran, start off as a novice by signing up for a Love Survival Skills course. Marriage Preparation
Slow down. Enjoy the romance – and prepare yourself and your new love to be equal partners in a marriage that fulfills your dreams.