It’s not just the divorce that dents your self-esteem but the months or even years of a failing marriage that lead up to divorce. Now that the legalities are behind you, start thinking about you. Like the Phoenix, you can burst from ashes into a beautiful bird. And isn’t it about time?
Take a hint from the Unsinkable Molly Brown, who sang, “I mean much more to me than I mean to anybody else.” That’s not as selfish as it sounds. Rebuild your self-esteem and you’re worth more to everyone who loves you – and everyone you love.
Make yourself your number one project. If nothing else, you’ll enjoy the attention.
Rebuilding self-esteem after divorce; what’s worked for us:
- Write down everything you like about yourself.
- Write down things you’d like to change (and can) and work down the list.
- Listen for compliments – and believe them.
- Pamper yourself with new clothes, a massage, a walk by the water.
- Join a divorce support or single parent group.
- Seek out people who make you feel good about yourself
- Avoid the critical types.
- Figure out some things you do well and do them often.
- Stretch – learn some new skill, try a new hobby, enjoy.
- Don’t be afraid to use the pronoun “I” and have it say what you feel.
- Accomplish something every day.
- Treat yourself with respect. You’ve earned it.