POSITION: We encourage couples to prepare themselves for marriage through the growing number of educational programs offered by public institutions and religious groups.

BACKGROUND: The idea of teaching people about marriage is not new. A number of religious groups offer and even require such premarriage courses for engaged couples. Teenagers have learned marriage skills in home economics and social studies courses. What is new is the growing awareness that educating people for marriage may help reduce divorce rates. Florida became the first state to pass a law requiring a marriage course for high school graduation. The state also encourages adults to complete a short marriage course before they wed by reducing the cost of the marriage license for those who do.

In the last few years, middle and high schools in more than 40 states have introduced marriage education programs with a focus on mastering relationship skills like conflict resolution and active listening. Other approaches include looking at marriage as a legal contract and include literary references to love and marriage. Marriage counselors, non-sectarian groups, agricultural extension offices, colleges, mental health agencies and churches are among the organizations offering practical, skills-based adult education courses; teaching techniques for improving communication and strengthening marriage.

No matter the program sponsor or design, the growing number of premarriage classes shows that the trend reflects increased awareness of the importance of learning and developing skills to build a marriage between equal partners. In that regard, marriage education courses should be supported and encouraged.

PERSONAL ACTION: Even if your state does not require a marriage education course, make sure you and your partner prepare yourselves to be equal partners in all areas of your marriage. Everyone can profit from marriage education even if you anticipate no problems. Religious and marriage enhancement organizations offer courses aimed at encouraging communication about the spiritual and emotional side of a marital union. You may also want to investigate more general courses exploring how to manage your finances, stress and careers; buying for renovating a home; organizing your household or even cooking and entertaining. Enroll with your partner and get a double return on your educational dollar. You'll both acquire new knowledge and also have a better understanding of how each of you feels about important issues like savings, debt, career goals and roles in a marriage.

SOCIAL ACTION: Marriage education as a movement is likely to grow. You can help influence the direction it takes by informing yourself on legislative and educational initiatives in your state and encouraging public dialogue. The Equality in Marriage Institute is committed to spreading public awareness of the importance of education in building strong, equal marriages. Join us in our efforts by becoming a member of the Institute.

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