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In the News: New Institute Articles

The Equality in Marriage Institute has entered into partnerships with ThirdAge.com and MSN.com to provide original content about defining, maintaining and dissolving partnerships with a focus on balance and equality. Below is a list and short synopsis of some recent articles. Click each article to get the full text:

Giving Love Another Try

If you are like most people, your thoughts on your past relationships are probably bittersweet - feeling fondness toward the positive memories and sadness or anger toward the situations or circumstances that led to the relationship's end.

How to Repair Relationship Devastation

When faced with adultery, betrayal or other relationship hurdles, people react in different ways. Some shut down. Some run away. Some call Ricki Lake or Jerry Springer.

Morning "Pick-Me-Ups" for your Relationship

Mornings are infamous for not being pleasant. Too often it's the beginning of a busy day and just getting up and getting started becomes more important than paying attention to the people around you.

Separation: Be Smart About Time Apart

Even as you read this article, there are many couples living in a transition between married life and getting divorced. Separation can come in many forms and have many intentions.

Should We Live Together?

Even couples in the healthiest relationships get a little nervous about the concept of living together.

Until Death Do Us Part

The last thing you want to think about is losing your partner. It is one of those realities that is so easy to overlook. However, should something happen to you or your partner, not having discussed and prepared for it can make the blow even harder and have major ramifications on the livelihood of the widowed individual.

Managing Your Relationship in World at War

It’s never easy when your partner is far away for significant lengths of time. With over 140,000 soldiers already deployed , many military spouses may be very worried about the events in the coming months.

Are You Paranoid in Your Partnership?

So you found a suspicious number scribbled on a matchbook in your partner's pocket. Or maybe an unknown number keeps popping up on the caller I.D.

Passion and Pensions: How to Balance Money Matters and Dating

Regardless of how many relationships you've had, it is always difficult to manage the financial issues of dating. Different money management styles, income and debt levels are just some of the money matters that the two of you may need to balance.

What Is Your Relationship Value?

There are always going to be those days when it seems the world is focused completely on your partner -- and not at all on you.

Make Your Own Divorce "Emergency Kit"

The road to emotional recovery from divorce can often be unpredictable territory. One minute you can feel fine and the next you are overwhelmed by all the residual feelings and the unnerving sense of change.

Navigating Relationships through Stormy Weather

It could be the death of a loved one, a national tragedy or the slow economy. Regardless of the nature of the event, tragic circumstances in you or your partner's world can have a major impact on your relationship.

The Second Wives Club

You thought your marriage would last forever and it didn't. Even then, you couldn't imagine that your former partner would marry again. Now they have.

Take Two? -- Should You Give Marriage A Second Shot?

You may have gotten off the roller coaster ride of your first marriage a little pessimistic about hopping on any other attractions in the future.

Tips for Talking

That argument you had before work about who was responsible for buying new milk probably isn’t the best example of effective communication.

Close Shop, Move On

There are MANY unhealthy ways to deal with the emotional ramifications of a divorce. Instead of using all that energy in a negative way, try to channel it into the process of transforming yourself through this transition.

The Offspring

The Offspring. It is such an emotionless phrase, like the children are property or something you display on a table in your foyer. Often in divorce younger children do become nothing more than a bartering tool and their well being gets lost in the game of tug-of-war.

Money Matters

For some odd reason, most humans have a reflex reaction to tragedies like divorce: they go shopping. While theraputic outlets are recommended, this doesn’t mean the local clothing outlets.

The First Steps

So it’s official – you are getting a divorce. Stop, wait….don’t head straight for the couch with bon-bons and a box of tissues.

Legal Eagle

Starting your divorce process without legal counsel is like biking without a helmet or going to a movie without popcorn -- people do it, but it seems a little strange.

Courthouse Rock

Should your divorce process lead you to the courthouse, you'll probably find yourself out front clicking your heels and chanting, "There's no place like home."

10 Ways to Add Excitement to Your Relationship

If you've been together for years, chances are you're missing that spark. Here are 10 ways to add some zest to your partnership.

This Valentine's Day, Give Your Relationship a "Tune-Up"

The media seems to be brimming with messages of relationship doom. The new book by Paula Paul, "Starter Marriages," is full of statistics stating that today's new marriages are often over before they start.

Turn Divorce Into Personal Growth

Dozens of authors have written shelves of books on recovering from the emotional pitfall of divorce. Too often, these books are bought only to become props in the living room of a person who once thrived, but is now trapped somewhere in the healing process.

Divorce: Six Steps to Being a Survivor.

Tips on how to manage the divorce process while balancing the many business and emotional needs of a tough transition period.

Unhappily Ever After...Divorce: Seven Steps to Moving on

Advice for divorcees on getting over the emotional strain of divorce, dealing with cynicism toward relationships and "moving on."

Mushy About Money?: Being Smart, Not Sentimental About Your Finances

Tips for taking the sensitivity and negativity out of financial issues for active, healthy management of what your household spends and saves.

Marriage Mayday: Seven Signs You're Headed for Divorce

There are many symptoms of a failing marriage. Recognizing problems early is the only way to try and get a partnership back on track.

Can We Be Friends? Shifting From Partnership to Friendship

It's the dreaded four-word phrase, "Can we be friends?" It's a classic break-up line, but it's also an issue that must be faced when a relationship hits the rocks.

Cohabitation Nation: The Real Scoop About Living Together

While the marriage rate is at it's lowest level in four decades, cohabitation between non-married partners has increased 1,150 percent in the last 40 years.

Dressing for Divorce What You Wear Could Matter

You spent six months picking out your wedding dress. Now it's two hours before your divorce hearing and a nice comfortable jogging suit seems just fine.

Can Tragedy Trigger Divorce?

We all know that couple. They are always bickering, never content - yet somehow it seems they will always be together.

Why The Next Few Months Could Be Partnership Peril

The best way to avoid an obstacle in the road is to recognize it in advance.

Are You In An Equal Partnership?

In the early stages of a relationship, the intense chemistry and mutual love of Chinese take-out while watching old movies may seem like more than enough.

Tips for Making Divorce Less Painful for Children

Divorce is rarely a pleasant experience - a trying mix of emotions and financial/legal issues that is often tainted by hostility and regret.