The Do’s And Don’ts Of Dating
Dating is not anything like your everyday stuffs– that you can go howsoever you like. Do whatever you want. And Expect it to go whichever way you want. It simply doesn’t work that way. A successful date requires a lot of preparedness, a respectable amount of knowledge about the likenesses of the other person and a profound familiarity with all the etiquettes, which just cannot be compromised.
In today’s fast-paced lives, meeting the right person is probably one of the most challenging ventures to embark upon. Even though the new age dating apps have tried to ease off the process, it’s simply one of those things which seem to be getting strenuous with the passing time. However, still there are some traditional do’s and don’ts of dating which can not only give you some heads up before your date but also can bail you out from seemingly unwanted situations.
Let’s discuss a couple of the most important “Don’ts” initially, as rather than creating a good impression, you might want to not create a bad impression first.
No Phones Allowed
This is probably one of the most common turn-offs for girls and boys alike, when on a date. And there’s a simple plain outcome of this – you’re not interested! Seeing your date flipping through his/ her phone can be very irritating to anyone. If it’s a very important business call or something similar, politely say, “I am really sorry, but can I take this?” but then don’t do it more than twice. And apologize again once you’re done with it. These are small gestures that can say a lot about the kind of person you are.
Past Relationships – Things Of The Past
Continuing to brood or boast about your past relationships is again a very big “don’t” when you’re on a date. The reason a person is on a date is that he/ she wants to know about you and try newer things, in turn leaving his/ her past behind. And the same would be expected of you as well.
A casual 2-3 line about your past relationships is more than enough, and you should neither try to talk about it at lengths nor bring it up again and again. You should also refrain from asking too much about the other person’s past relationships as that might give the other person a lot of negative indications about you. Better, not to ask at all.
Coming to the “Do’s” now,
Time Is Money
No matter which article you turn up to or which book you uncover, when it comes to dating, the golden mantra to create the very first good impression is –be on time. Think of it this way – every minute that you get delayed, your date is not going to rejoice it and he/ she would think of all the not-so-important reasons that you’re going to tell him/ her for being late. The chances of making the date a success will reach its all-time low at the very moment, picking up from where will surely be an uphill task for you.
Interest Piques Curiosity
Since you’re meeting someone for the first time, there’s going to be a lot of things about your date that you’ll find out for the first time – some interesting, others not so much. Well, the idea here is to pretend to be interested even if it doesn’t sound as one to you. Disclosing personal things to a stranger is in itself a tough thing to do, and so, to compliment the other person’s efforts you should make them feel that you’re genuinely interested.
Now, if you’re successfully able to do that, then curiosity will start growing on its own, which my friend, will enable you to be more involved in his/ her talks, in turn greatly enhancing your chances of success.
Dating etiquettes also depend upon your dressing sense, the way you talk, your sense of interpreting things, basic common sense, and a whole lot of other things, but the above-discussed points are the ones, which if you get right, will definitely set you of on the right track.