Marriage Rules To Maintain A Happy Home

After months of love and years of being together in a married life, a lot of things can go haywire. The same small things which previously made you feel loved, can now be taken as an irritation by your partner; the things that once sent you to in a fit of laughter, now might seem just like your everyday stuff, and the worst part –you can’t blame your significant other for being uninterested now. It happens with everyone.

After a certain period of time, if you’ve not taken the efforts of doing the same old things in a creatively different way, they’re bound to feel mundane. And the onus will always lie upon you to bring back that passion into your marriage again. You cannot simply expect your partner to take the efforts while you sit back tightly saying, “he/ she is the one who has lost the interest and should be responsible for it.”This can be a very dangerous scenario in any marriage.

There are some well-defined ways that have been proven time and again, to bring back the passion, ignite your marriage and capable of maintaining a happy home again, when things have stopped falling in line themselves.

Compliment For The Smallest Of Things

Keeping score of all the things that you’ve done/ sacrificed for your partner and then asking your partner to do the same for you, is a really bad idea. I’ve cleaned the basement so you should clean the closets, I’ve done the dishes so you should do the mopping – these are childish tit for tat games and some time into your marriage, can cause a lot of conundrums.

If at all you want to keep score, then do it for all the positive things your partner does in a day and genuinely thank him/ her for all. It’ll reflect to your better half that his/ her efforts are not going in vain, and you’re indeed noticing and realizing them.

Nurture Your Outside Relationships

When you’re few years into your marriage, for keeping the passion alight, you need to spend some time hanging out with your friends as well. It’s true that you love spending time with your spouse and your kids a lot but time apart with friends, at times, will not only brighten your mood, but will also leave your partner in charge for taking care of the things– a sense of responsibility.

Swapping stories between your friends and your partner will definitely spice up the things around you and you should encourage your partner to take occasional night-outs as well. In simple words, you need some distance to move closer.

Forgive More. Forget More.

Tons of displeasing things happen in a marriage. The same uncommonly exciting habits might seem irritatingly weird today. But remember, you’re not the only one and it happens in every marriage. The mantra however, is to “forgive and forget”. More often than not, the best way to address situations is to simply walkway. You need to give things time to settle down.

Not every discomfort needs to be addressed. Try to practice letting go as much as possible and do it for the reasons you married the person in the first place. The bottom line here is you actually let the things pass away. Maintaining silence but then continuing to contemplate on the same mindless stuffs is not going to get you or your married life anywhere.

Before buckling up for doing bigger and greater things, try to put these small things into perspective and if they turn out to be actually making a difference, the chances of which are seriously high, there might not arise a need to go for those bigger things.